🎧 How to Say No to Protect Your Rest (Light Pause Mode)

Learning how to say no without guilt is one of the most important self-care skills you can develop. In this episode of The Pause Between, host Gia breaks down why saying no feels so hard, how guilt often shows up when we try to set boundaries, and what it really means to protect your rest—mentally, emotionally, and physically.

You’ll discover:
 ✅ How to set healthy boundaries that protect your time and energy
✅ Practical ways to say no kindly without overexplaining or feeling selfish

If you often feel overwhelmed, burned out, or drained because you say yes too often, this episode will help you reclaim your energy and peace of mind. Learn how to set boundaries with confidence, practice self-care without guilt, and finally give yourself permission to rest.

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Chapters

• 0:08 Introduction
• 0:24 Why Saying No Matters
• 1:08 Why Saying No Feels So Hard
• 1:47 Saying No as a Boundary That Protects Rest
• 2:53 Understanding Guilt and What It Really Means
• 5:15 Practical Ways to Say No Without Guilt
• 8:07 Closing Reflections: Saying Yes to Yourself

Transcript

AteGia: 0:09

Hey there, welcome to the Pause Between. If you're new, hi, my name is Ate Gia and if you're returning, welcome back. I really appreciate your time spent on this podcast. Today or tonight, we're unpacking a topic that's so important but often misunderstood. Saying no. I mean aminin. Ang hirap talagang mag sabi nang no. Because for many of us, saying no feels kind of uncomfortable, even feels wrong at some point. Especially when it comes to work, family, or even social commitments. Ladun na kung yung pak say no natin maka sa mang guilt or ta kot disappoint. But what if I told you that saying no is actually one of the most powerful ways to protect your rest and recharge your energy. So if you're someone who often feels drained or overwhelmed because you find it hard to say no, this episode is for you. We're going to explore why saying no is vital for your well-being and practical ways to say no with kindness to yourself and to others. So let's start with why saying no can be sometimes so hard. For many of us, it is deeply tied to how we want to be seen and how we care about others, our commitment, and our responsibilities. Saying yes feels safe and it's the easiest way to avoid conflict, disappointment, or that feeling of selfishness. But here's the truth. Constantly saying yes when your body and mind are telling you otherwise creates a slow drip of exhaustion. Imagine yung energy mo as a cup. You keep pouring out energy to others but never refill it. Eventually the cup runs dry. That's the same. The guilt you feel when saying no is actually often a sign that you care deeply about others, but it can also mean you haven't fully accepted that your own needs deserve equal care. Now let's try to reframe saying no not as a form of selfishness, but setting boundary. And boundaries are like fences around your personal space, your energy, your time, and even your peace of mind. So when you say no, you're creating space for yourself to rest. This isn't just about physical rest. It could be emotional, mental, or even social or functional. And think about it like this: saying no to one thing is saying yes to yourself, yes to your energy, your mental health, and your ability to be present when it really matters. Saying no is self-care. It's how you will reveal your energy so you can show up fully later and during the most important ones. And I understand that guilt can sometimes feel heavy or overwhelming. I shouldn't be able to do this, or may disappoint, or I'm lit, I'm letting people down. And these thoughts can make you feel like saying no is impossible at times. But guilt is also a message that you value relationships, responsibilities, commitments, or just being seen as as someone reliable. And that's a good thing, but it becomes a problem when it stops you from taking care of yourself. Thus, try to see guilt as a signal, not a rule. So it's okay to feel it, but it doesn't have to control your choices. Restoring your boundaries means you're learning to honor your needs as much as you honor the others. So now let's get practical. So painung say no without guilt or being drowned in guilt. So number one, practice clear and simple no's. You don't owe anyone long explanations unless it is something that you need to do so. A gentle simple sentence is enough. Like I can take this on right now. Also, the second one is using 'yes, but not right now'. So it still has the intention of doing something, but it's just that your energy is dipped right now that you can do it. It also has that sense of responsibility still, but this softens the no while still protecting your time. Number three, remember the bigger picture. Your rest benefits everyone, including yourself. When you're rested, you're better at supporting others and supporting yourself in the process. Number four, create your own rest mantra. Something like saying no is scaring for myself. That can help rewire those guilt feelings. You can take a look at it at some time or put something in your notes or on your table to be fully reminded that saying no is actually self-gare. Number five, set boundaries in advance. Let people know your limits ahead of time. For example, you're not available this weekend. Let people know that you're not available, that you intend to rest this weekend. This makes no's easier when they actually came up. Number seven, lean on trusted people. Share your struggles with guilt and boundaries with friends that truly support you, or anyone that you feel is a safe space. It creates a support system around rest or saying no. And number seven, try practicing gently. You don't have to be perfect at it right away. Just make small um notes at the beginning and make sure that you that you still honor your needs, your body, your mind, and your peace of mind. And that's it. Before we wrap up, I want to remind you that rest is so much more than sleep. It's also about saying no and giving yourself permission to pause mentally, emotionally, and socially. So when you say no and set boundaries, you're not just creating time to lie down, you're creating space for your brain to breathe, your emotions to settle, and your soul and spirit to recharge. Rest is a full reset. It's not a luxury, it's a necessity. And I understand that saying no without a guilt is a skill, but you have to start now. You have to keep building that skill and make it like a gift to yourself and to those around you because it protects yourself, your rest, your energy, and your peace. If this feels hard or if the guilt feels heavy or overwhelming, remember that it's okay to reach out to a friend, a mentor, or even a professional for support. You're allowed to take that. And that's it. Thank you for passing with me today. This has been the light mode for the pause between. And be gentle with yourself as you practice all of those that we have talked about. And remember, every boss sharpens you. Give us a follow to our social media platforms in the notes section, and I'll see you on our next pause.